FRIENDSHIP

FRIENDSHIP

Friendship: “One who is personally well-known by oneself and for whom one has warm regards, or affections; intimate” (Funk and Wagnall). Just as the term “love” is personally defined by the individual, so is “friendship.”

 

Everyone has his own conception of what denotes an “intimate friend.” However, it is not generally understood, especially by the friends themselves, what the tasks, responsibilities, and obligations are of an intimate friend. Moreover, how and in what manner these tasks, responsibilities, and obligations are to be met are questions that are also usually left unanswered.

 

Friendship, it seems, exists on some sort of nonverbal agreement: always be “implicit” but never “explicit.”

 

Fortunately, my friendship is one of the exceptions: honesty and clarity are the general rules in our relationship. It is something we feel we not only owe to ourselves but also to each other as well.

 

Men do not like to admit, not even to themselves, that they have a need and a desire to be intimate with each other. For to do so, they feel that that will leave them vulnerable to those who may want to cast doubt about their masculinity. This is where society has failed our youths, especially our males. No wonder a man feels he must be obsessed with women and sex in order to be accepted in our society.

 

Friendship is a wonderful thin and an everlasting thing. When most relationships fail, friendships usually prevail. We, as a society, need to learn more about the art of friendship and less about the art of sex. This will not only help us as adults but also our children and society as a whole as well.

 

From the book, Real love. Real issues. Real solutions, by Johnnie Newkirk Jr. on Amazon.com

A MATTER OF CONTROL

A MATTER OF CONTROL

Believe it or not, I love my wife with all my heart. But there were certain things that we had to get straight from the start. She has her role and I have mine. As long as we both stay within those boundaries everything will be fine. However, once she decides to go out of the said boundaries or out of her role then it’s time for me to exercise some control. Never hit a woman or call her out of her name. Don’t display any dissatisfaction, especially in public, toward her in any way. For, if you do, you will regret it the next day. You wait until you go to bed, in the privacy of your room, then this is when you lower the boom. While engaging in sex you apply the pain. Don’t show her any kind of mercy and then you explain. You let her know that she crossed the line and that will never be tolerated at any time. Apply pressure to her nipples until she concedes and promises you that she will never again step out of her boundaries. To many this may be considered abusive and cold. But a woman needs to be reminded, at times, that the man is the one that is ultimately in control.

From the book, Real love. Real issues. Real solutions, by Johnnie Newkirk Jr on Amazon.com

A LITTLE ABUSE

A LITTLE ABUSE

Family and friends tell me that I’m a fool. They could not understand how I can suffer such abuse. My husband beats me when he’s upset. I know he loves me. He proves it every-time he makes love to me. He’s really a nice man, but his temper is short at best. He needs a course in stress management. I’ve suffered some bruises from time to time. I’ve even suffered some broken bones for which he always apologize. If someone is sick you don’t pass judgment on them. Instead, you do everything in your power to assist them. He is my husband for better or worse. And I do receive more of the better than I do the worse. Most of the time he treats me like a queen. I, on the other hand, always treat him like a king. All marriages and relationships have their ups and their downs. When things get rough I get tough and go the rounds. I love him with all my heart and soul. He loves me too, and this is something that only a woman would know. I may die trying to live with him. But I will definitely die if I had to live without him.

From the book, Real love. Real issues. Real solutions, by Johnnie Newkirk Jr

I HATE HOMOS

I HATE HOMOS

There are these brothers that I’ve known for many years. Believe it or not they both have a wife. One has received more oral sex from men than the law would allow. He has also performed more anal sex on men of which everyone was eager to crack a “smile.” His brother, on the other hand, is a man that likes to receive, give him a good top and he’s really pleased. What makes them both interesting—and this is no joke—is that they both profess to hate all “homos.” Yet sexually both have dealt, and probably still are, with men ever since I’ve known them. When I accused one of maybe being bisexual he never spoke to me again. I have committed, according to him, a cardinal sin. If you got an erection, then there was sexual attraction. If you experienced an ejaculation, then you received gratification. And if you engaged in a kiss then that means your heart was in it. Whether you’re the top man or bottom man you’re still engaging in, participating in, and receiving gratification from a man. The homos that you profess to hate are the same ones to whom you gravitate. Believe it or not these brother are, fraternal, twins. One will always have my heart and will always be considered a friend. Let’s hope they can avoid contracting any diseases. Cause once you give you will, sooner or later, want to receive. Hey, the truth hurts.

From the book, Real love. Real issues. Real solutions, by Johnnie Newkirk Jr on Amazon.com